What If, no matter what your love life is like now - even if there's no man at all, or the man you have is pulling away and you feel alone, scared and angry - you could change everything, practically overnight?
I get to be here saying I'm a relationship expert, and that I can help you Have The Relationship You Want for a bunch of reasons.
I'm a trained coach from Coaches Training Institute, I was a crisis counselor for survivors of violent crime (so nothing you could tell me about your life would shock or surprise me), I have a radio show, I speak at large, national seminars, I have classes and workshops, and I've written several books - but my real credential is that I've been married 19 years - brilliantly, to a wonderful man - and it wasn't always like that!
In fact, it was pretty horrible for the first five years, and horrible in the same way all my relationships had been. Before I met my husband, it was as if I was wearing a sign on my chest that said "I take crumbs."
I was the crumb taking queen.
I had so little self-esteem and practically no boundaries at all - the only behavior I knew was to try to control and manipulate everyone and everything in my life - in a very sweet and smiling way.
And at first, I didn't want him. I didn't recognize him for the diamond he was. I was looking for crumbs, and he was offering me the whole meal!
Finally, I got that he was great and handsome and was really ready for the kind of relationship I'd only dreamed about, and managed to, instead of sabotaging myself the way I always had, inspire him to want to marry me.
That should be the end of the fairy tale, but it isn't, because my nightmare started soon after.
In what I call "those awful years," we tried couple's therapy, and it just made me feel angrier and more helpless. There was no sleep, no sex, I was anxious and miserable all the time.
And then, suddenly, a light went on in my head. Actually, it was as though someone hit me with a brick.
I got that it was me. I was my own problem.
I'd been doing the same things and saying the same things I'd always done and said - things that never, ever worked.
I experimented. I made some small changes in what I said and didn't say and what I did and didn't do, and - overnight - the marriage did a 180.
And now we have this phenomenal marriage. It just gets better every day, and it's given me a real sense of being grounded and strong inside myself.
Though I started out coaching other married women, slowly my practice and readership has attracted women who are single and looking for a great relationship, and women who are in relationships that feel like dead-ends and desperately want to be married to the men they're already with.
It's almost a shock when men begin to respond to you in a completely different way. I use my Tools every day in my own life - and not just in my marriage.
I use them in business, when I'm in the grocery store, at parties, and with my family members.
The Tools keep me relaxed, feeling empowered and confident, and if I'm ever feeling confused, I have my own book to set me straight!
Last month in Los Angeles, I was a featured speaker at a huge Dating & Relationship Seminar. So many lovely women showed up who'd found me here, online, and bought my eBook.
They'd come to hear me, and they told me things about my own book - that it's "The best relationship book I've ever read", and that it started them on a whole new way of being with men. I felt very humbled, thanked them for coming and for sharing their successes with me, and they volunteered to give you their testimonials.
I'll print them out for you, along with some of the actual e-mails I've received in my personal e-mail box just this last week, further down the page.
The Tools I discovered and developed, especially the concept of "feeling messages," saved my marriage, and it makes it work on all burners every day of my life.
I had to write it down so other women could do what I did. I knew it would work for every woman, and it does.
My clients see turnarounds in their love lives almost instantly. Shy women start dating and have success right off. It's as though it's raining men out there. Their friends stare at them when they get so much sudden masculine attention and ask what it is they're doing - and they give them copies of my book.
If you're already in a relationship or marriage, the results you're about to get will happen even faster, because you're with a man 24/7 and can practice and transform things with him constantly. (He'll start feeling differently and acting differently in your relationship immediately. You'll see.
There's something I want to tell you... It's important to me to make it easy and affordable for you to get the RESULTS you want - so I've made it so you can download my eBook Have The Relationship You Want right now for FREE and read it for an entire 7 days before you decide to purchase it.
My eBook is filled with "How-To", step-by-logical-step Tools and secrets that are instantly usable and will work with the man in your life. As you're reading and learning - it's going to be like a light going on in your head (like it was in mine), and you'll see immediate results with everyone you come in contact with.
But before, let's talk about one of the simplest ways to "shift" your relationship so you can start experiencing the love you're looking for.
What if men really are good and kind - even if your friends are always telling you they're jerks and losers?
What if what your friends are telling you, the advice they're giving you, is all wrong
What if your Mr. Right-For-You really is out there, and you don't even have to go looking for him, because he's looking for you?
What if you could transform everything, your entire love life, just by practicing some simple new ways of talking and being?
Sometimes we're so hard on ourselves.
Do you ever find yourself walking around thinking you don't deserve love, even though your heart tells you you do?
Are all your past relationship disappointments making you feel like giving up on love?
Well, what if it was so much easier than anyone ever told you to draw a man close, keep him interested, keep yourself interested, and keep the relationship moving forward?
If you're dating, or thinking about dating, know that there's a reason any man picks you out of a crowd.
And there's a reason he keeps asking you out.
Once he's picked you out - you don't have to prove anything, demonstrate anything, or even do ANYTHING.
All you have to do is learn to just be who you are.
And if you're in a relationship right now that either doesn't seem to be going anywhere - or has you tied up in knots because it feels like it's suddenly falling apart - does it seem that you only have two options? To just keep going on, trying to make it work and feeling frustrated and unhappy, or to leave?
It's a way to stop all the drama and confusion, and bring back the love.
It's a way to stop doing what's pushing him away, and start doing the things that will bring him close and make you feel better at the same time.
We women so think the only way to make a relationship work is to be NICE.
And then we read books that tell us we should be acting like bitches.
When neither of those things is what he wants. (And they're not the way we want to be, either.)
What a man really wants is for us to be REAL.
And as soon as we learn how to REALLY just be and express in words and body language who we really are inside, that's when men are most attracted to us.
In fact, when we're real, and actually express our emotions - in ways he can hear - men feel so drawn to us, and so connected to us, the relationships becomes almost effortless. Pretty much instantly.
But everything we women have been told teaches us to do the exact opposite!
We're taught to ask for what we want and be smart and clever, and a good friend - and all this never works!
Talking like this and doing things like this actually drives men away!
We're so afraid of doing "drama" that we hide our feelings even from ourselves!
And then, guess what? We end up doing drama!
We women need to be heard by our man, and yet we speak in words he can't hear - words that blame him rather than express our own feelings.
We often feel that we're expressing ourselves, and yet we create drama.
Why? Because we're scared.
We've spent our whole lives being told we can't or shouldn't or feeling limited or not good enough or not loveable, so even though we so much want, with our whole hearts, to love and be loved, we get stuck in old patterns of actually keeping love, and men from getting close to us.
We're the ones who are often "shut down."
And if we can open ourselves up - and this is important - If we can open our hearts and at the same time stand by ourselves and stand up for ourselves, our man will not only open up to us, he'll cherish and adore the vulnerability and authenticity he sees in us.
He'll feel instantly connected to YOU.
Most men are deeply offended by insincerity, and deeply disturbed by incongruity - for example, if we're mad, but we smile and act nice - our behavior on the outside doesn't match what we're feeling on the inside. They can feel our anger, and the smile just reads "fake". They think they can't trust us.
They think we're trying to control them.
And a lot of the time, they're right! We are trying to control things.
Often, we want things to go a certain way. We want to get to the party on time. We want to see that movie, or go to that restaurant.
We want him to behave the way we want him to behave.
And we want it now.
We want the relationship all tied up nice in a bow and forever after.
And we need to know. Now.
What if the way to getting what you want isn't by asking for what you want?
What if the way to getting what you want is a way you've never even heard of?
Most of us say we'd do anything for love, and yet, all our actions and words seem to only push it away.
Every one of us is pushing away love in some way - because we're all afraid of really getting close to a man and letting him see who we really are. We're afraid of intimacy.
And we all do it - push love away - in different ways.
Some of us talk a lot. We never stop talking, never really listen, and always have something to say. We talk so much because we're nervous about what would happen if we stopped talking. If we stopped talking, he'd really see us as we believe we are - not really good enough on the inside.
The truth is, most of us women process our thoughts and feelings verbally. We say what comes to mind and sort of download it all in words.
This is really confusing for men. They get lost and frustrated because our talking seems like endless chatter to them.
And we spend a lot of time feeling as if we haven't been heard. And we haven't.
If I were to ask you, as I ask all of the women I work with, to think of words and body language as either magnets to draw in a man, or fists to push him away, what would you tell me?
Would you say that you just want to be yourself and act "natural" and be "spontaneous?"
It would be great if saying what ever comes to mind could make us man magnets - and yet - it just doesn't work that way.
And it's not because being "spontaneous" and "natural" isn't attractive to men - it is!
It's because what we think of as "spontaneous," "natural," and "being ourselves" is most often really only our old nervous patterns (the ones that have never worked) coming up again, over and over.
And these old words and patterns actually keep love away!
Psychologically, all our old words and body language together are our "defense system." They're there to defend us against threats and pain - but we use them all the time! We use them from the moment we lay eyes on a man, even before he opens his mouth!
We behave as though we're in trouble, or not good enough, or about to be hurt - before we even know much at all about the man!
This is where Chemistry comes in.
If the chemistry is strong enough, we'll sort of sail through the first few months of dating. He won't pay too much attention to our defenses, even if they irritate him. He'll pretend to listen while we talk and apologize for misreading our signals.
But then, sooner or later, the chemistry fades a little and the relationship gets real. All our defenses that have kept us from truly connecting with him get even stronger - now we can feel the tension. We can feel the distance between us. We can feel how he's pulling away.
And we blame him.
And we say - "I should have known he was a jerk."
And then your friends support the "he's a jerk" labelling because they don't know, anymore than you did, how it all really happened.
We women are all willing to say "I'm not pretty enough", or "I'm not good enough". We're willing to put ourselves down for who we are (and really hurt ourselves).
And beating ourselves up doesn't help. In fact, it lowers our self-confidence, makes us feel angry about men, and makes things worse.
What does help is to really look at ways we can do things differently.
And sometimes, doing things differently takes different relationship skills.
Real spontaneity and naturalness - Authenticity is very, very attractive to men. Because it communicates CONFIDENCE in ourselves.
But most of the time, our old words and our old patterns actually are telling men, from the moment they talk with us, that we have absolutely NO confidence in ourselves!
Learning new words that DO communicate CONFIDENCE, and are completely authentic, real, spontaneous and natural, is what my Coach Rori programs, books, classes and coaching are all about.
We all have different ways of pushing men away with our old words and body language.
Some of us put up an "I don't care" kind of attitude. We sort of fold our arms across our chests and dare a man to try to get close.
Some of us use humor. We make jokes and act like "one of the boys." We're comfortable with friendship, but not romance.
Some of us are just so shy, we sit in the corner and then wonder why we're not drawing anyone in.
This kind of body language and words practically screams "I'm insecure!" to a man
We can fool them for awhile if we're good actresses, but deep down it makes us feel terrible. We feel like we're fooling him, and if he ever saw the real us, he'd run
And then he runs, and we feel certain we were right! We weren't good enough!
And that isn't it at all.
We were totally good enough. We were so good he got interested in us just by looking at us. Maybe we were having a good time with our friends and he saw us being "ourselves" and being fun, and he was attracted to us and walked over to talk.
But then, instead of the fun girl he thought we were, he got someone either uptight with "attitude" or nervously laughing and talking too much.
Instead of finding a receptive, attractive woman, he found himself talking with an attractive woman who's acting more like a man! Someone he might want to be friends with, maybe, and have sex with, maybe, but walk off into the sunset with? No. He's made up his mind.
Most of us won't catch on that he's already made up his mind about us until we're crying broken hearted 3 or 4 months down the line.
I can help you tell right off the bat what's really happening in his mind and body.
He's attracted to you, but he doesn't feel connected to you.
We women think only women feel "connection." But men, though they might not know the words to describe it, either feel connected, or they don't. They don't go round and round in their heads about it, they just either feel it or they don't.
Sometimes the physical attraction is so strong for them at the beginning that they overlook the fact that they don't feel connected. Most of the time, they know they don't feel connected - but they date us anyway because they're physically attracted!
And then we mistake this "relationship" we're now involved in for a real relationship with a future - when, actually, the man knows all along it's not.
My job as a relationship coach is to help you read where a man is at right from the beginning - so you don't waste your time.
And if you're already in a relationship - to help you adjust your words and body language to recapture the attraction he felt for you at the beginning.
You can do it. You can be cherished and adored.
And it can happen quickly.
All you need is new tools, a fresh perspective, and a willingness to try something none of your friends even know about.
They won't understand what you're doing, but they'll see the effect it has on every man around you.
As a very special one-time bonus, I'd also like to send you a FREE audio CD from my "Interviews With Relationship Experts" monthly CD interview program.
I know how hard it is to find good advice about men and relationships. When I was struggling in my love life, the only women I had to talk to were struggling as much as I was... and even though we shared a lot, we couldn't really find WHAT WORKED.
My friends and family had lots of opinions, but nothing to say that actually helped. I hardly even knew anyone who had a romantic, sexy, fun, loving relationship.
I wished they'd taught a class about "How To Do Relationships" back in high school, but they didn't...
If you're at all like I was, you were expected to learn about love by "watching" and "doing," and somehow know everything you needed to know "naturally."
The subtle assumption here was that you "get it" just because you were born a woman!
So, as a grown woman, I felt "backward" because I couldn't make everything work and hold my relationship together on my own
I felt almost stupid about men.
But the truth was - my friends and I spent a lot of time complaining about men and our relationships because we were stuck doing the same things over and over again. We were just passing on to each other, over and over again, the same information that never worked.
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Since I turned my own nightmare relationship into the great, 20 year marriage I have now (and been able to see my clients experience relationship success so much faster and easier than they dreamed possible), and become a relationship "expert" myself, I've met and worked with so many other experts.
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